If you don’t love and respect yourself, no else will. Self-love comes from within so be willing to accept who you are because you are enough.
Love Yourself Unconditionally by accepting yourself
It’s been a long journey for me to love myself unconditionally. The first step was to just accept myself the way I am – we all have flaws and nobody’s perfect.
It’s not about just merely liking yourself on a surface level. It’s about loving yourself in the deepest way you can. If you don’t love and respect yourself, no one else will.
When we are having a hard time loving ourselves it’s because we let the opinions of others affect how we love yourselves. We try self-love from the outside in instead of inside-out.
Our inner dialogue plays a really important role. When you start hating certain parts of yourself that when you find it hard to love yourself. Tell yourself that you love yourself the way you are every day and you will end up believing it.
Stop comparing yourself because everybody’s different. Social media has done a lot of harm because we see these ‘perfect’ bodies without cellulite, stretch marks or fat and we think that, that’s how we’re supposed to look. We start to believe that if we don’t look that way no one will love us. But again, happiness and self-love comes within.
7 steps to help you start ways to love yourself unconditionally
- Spending time alone: this will allow you to reconnect with your inner self. You can journaling, do a loving meditation or not do anything at all and just relax. All these things will create a loving and safe space.
- Be willing to accept what sets you apart: everybody’s different and weird in their own way. Be unapologetic about who you are – own it!
- Be easy on yourself: Don’t be too harsh if you had an ice cream and didn’t go to the gym. Or don’t beat yourself up for not going to the gym every day.
- Acknowledge and give yourself credit: instead of focusing on what you did wrong, shift your perspective and focus on what you accomplished and give yourself credit for it.
- Forgive your past: Your past does not define you. Once you accept yourself for who you are, that’s because you have forgiven your past and you’re ready to move on.
- Respect yourself: Don’t tell stuff to yourself that would hurt another person. If you don’t respect yourself, then don’t expect other people to respect you.
- Be grateful: Expressing daily gratitude will help you love yourself more. You can tell yourself: “I am grateful for my body as it is my temple and I am treating it accordingly”.
How to love yourself unconditionally even when you encounter a hurdle
Have you ever felt sorry about yourself and ashamed of who you are? I have and that’s because I was not getting enough love from myself.
When I started having acne at the age of 21 this really affected my confidence and it was hard not to hate myself. Only when people starting telling ‘your acne is not bad at all’ and ‘you don’t have that many pimples’ is when I started embracing my acne.
Now I’ve learned to love myself even if I have acne regardless of whatever people tell me. Because that people that love you the most can also be the most hurtful sometimes.
I’ve also learned how to let go of those negative thoughts and feeling that made me feel unworthy and not good enough. Every single person on this planet is enough only because they exist – and so are you!
An unconditional self-love book that I can recommend is: Untamed by Glennon Doyle.
In this book, Glennon explains how falling in love with someone else allowed her to become fully herself. Glennon spent or her life trying to please other people. She was what other people wanted her to be and not who she wanted to be until she said: enough!
Learning how to love yourself requires assessing yourself and building little habits that help you develop a loving relationship with yourself day-by-day. If you’d like support to assess your needs and explore what kind of support might suit you, Book a Free Breakthrough Call here.
